Let’s Talk About: Negative Influence

Sometimes life can be real difficult…don’t you think? Every second of every day, we are constantly worrying about how somebody else will react to what we do, or say, or think or believe in. Our thoughts are clouded with the shadows of other people’s opinions that prevent us from seeing clearly, seeing the world how WE want to. Some people call it inspiration. Some call it influence. I say it is both, yet neither. Inspiration is a positive way of taking someone else’s actions and words into thought while we progress in life. Influence is what people have on other people, which may not always be a good thing. Inspiration is optional. Influence is not as easy to prevent.

Do you ever think back on a decision you made in the past that was influenced by somebody else’s decision or opinion? I know I have. Do you think your decision would have been completely different if you hadn’t been influenced by another person? Would it have been better in the long run? Would it have been the same?

What I really want to say is, that you should live life for YOU. Accomplish what YOU want every day. Go by what YOU believe in without worrying what other people might think. Stand up for causes that YOU are passionate about, regardless of the amount of support you receive. Act the way YOU want. Talk the way YOU want. Be the way that YOU want to be, because at the end of the day, no one knows what’s best for you more than yourself.

I believe that there is a reason that we are all so different from each other. We have the ability to inspire and influence each other in a positive way, which can be extremely powerful. However, if we all started acting the same way and talking the same and behaving the same, we lose our own authenticity and the authenticity of our society.

So from today, break the boundaries of negative influence in society and be who YOU want to be. Inspire others by your own individuality and help bring out the best in everyone around you! Aspire to be the best you can be, and don’t let the opinions of the people around you limit your imagination and creativity!

Don’t wait for others to accept you into their ways of life, show them that you are better than that. Don’t let people mould you into clones of themselves because you are better than that. At the end of the day, authenticity is key, and there is nobody in this world quite like you:)

Signing off,

Shreya xx




  1. Zoey · June 10, 2016

    I see your point of view, but it seems that teenagers worry so much about what others think than adults do. Actually, some adults don’t even worry at all.

    And I don’t think you have to accept negative energy into your life. If someone is influencing you negatively, isn’t supportive of you and your decisions, or simply hates whatever step you take for no reason, then it’s time to cut them out of your life. Of course, there will always be negative influences. Someone will try to coax you into doing something bad. Someone will try to stop you from achieving your goals. Someone will tell you “you can’t” or “that’s unrealistic.” You can always choose to accept such energy or distance yourself from it. And I’ve realized with time, the self-confidence you have, others’ doubts, worries, and negative thoughts will be silenced. Of course, you should always listen respectfully to what people say. Whether you choose to believe or act upon what others say is in your power. I hope that helped and made sense.

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    • pastelorchid · June 10, 2016

      Zoey, thank you so much! I completely understand what you are saying and wholeheartedly agree with your point of view! What I was trying to explain in the post was that negativity isn’t always easy to push away…but you should try 200% harder to accomplish it. I’m so glad that my post started some conversation because there is nothing I love more than engaging with me fellow bloggers and to learn from your opinions <3

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  2. Zoey · June 11, 2016

    Oh, I guess I misunderstood you then. I thought you said it was impossible not to bow down to other negative opinions. I’m sorry about that. And yes, you should be stronger than the negative person. I agree with you on that.

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